If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay,? says the Lord. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:18-19, 21 (NIV)
These verses offer great comfort to us when we?ve been offended by someone. However, if we?re the offending person, they can fill us with fear and dread. But the truth is, God is just. His desire is for us to grow in our relationship with Him. And whether we?re the offended or the offender, we can trust His justice.
The most accurate checkpoint of true forgiveness is whether you have a sense of peace. If you say you?ve forgiven someone and yet you find yourself still tied in knots when you think of that person, you aren?t at peace. If you?ve asked for forgiveness but find yourself mentally making a list to defend your offense, you haven?t truly asked for forgiveness.
The peace of God isn?t just a warm fuzzy feeling. It?s a sense that radiates from deep within our souls that God is in control and we can trust Him. Sometimes this peace is immediate. But there are other times when God wants to work deeply within our hearts. And to arrive at the point of not wanting to get even, we have to spend intentional time turning the whole thing over to Him. Lord, only You are almighty and all-powerful. Only You can be a fair and compassionate Judge of my life and of those around me. Help me release my defensiveness and hurt to You, to trust You with the deep places within in me that no one sees. I desire Your peace in my life and I can only have that when I trade in my agenda. Teach me how to overcome evil with good.